For weeks now i have been asking my self why men tend to be less concerned about their marriage than women and yet i have still not gotten a convincing answer to that. I have heard a thousand and one times that it is the woman that keeps the home but the last time i checked both parties said 'I DO' and not just the woman. Women are the ones that buy most books on marriages and initiate most marriage counseling and they also file for divorce more often than men.
Are men that less concerned because it is the woman that bears the shame if she moves back to her parent's house or is it generally in their nature to be less concerned?
Its not enough for a man to think that his only role in the family is just to provide for the family. Most times your money is not all a woman needs in her marriage, she also needs YOU.
Preach baby. Men are just not it. God will help us to marry men who fear him and truly understand the meaning of marriage. I love your write up. More power to your elbow hun.
ReplyDeleteLucy , we men are also praying for God to help us with a good woman, the sad truth is that the emphasis placed by women on the ability of a man to provide as the yardstick for marriage is to the reason for most of them feeling that is there only responsibility.
ReplyDeletePersonally... I think its the state of the mind as at entry point.If i got married knowing my life depended on it( for all those right reasons nd some wrong ones😉),That feeling will last... Then things like familiarity complacency and lack of effort leads to the tendency to care less... Simply because we are men and we have the attention span of gold fishes. But when u Enter a marriage cos u have come of age to give someone kids....and he can foot your bills. Then this tendency you speak of is bound to exist even before you say 'i do'.
ReplyDeleteSo as cliche as it may sound, marry for the right reasons and when you do ... Remember u have a goldfish in the house!
Thank you so much @Lucy, @Iconone please kindly elucidate more because i have also met few women who provide for the family and are more concerned about their marriage than their partner @Anonymous12.09 I totally agree with you
ReplyDelete@Oyidiya there is a media campaign going on, ladies are being told that "you cant eat love", females who stay with a guy who is struggling financial is mocked by her peers, parents are so concerned with a mans current Job title than the sincerity of his heart and passion of his dreams, the age where women married with the hope of building a family is fast fading, the increased image of an independent woman is being misunderstood. .. all this and more is what has changed the emphasis of marriage in our time, from marriage as a Union to marriage as an agreement.
ReplyDeleteThis is actually interesting...thumbs up👍🏾👍🏾...
ReplyDeletei don't think men care less and women care more. some women are just more expressive of the way they feel than most men. also, after the fall, the woman was cursed "your yearning will be for your husband, and he'll dominate you" and to a great extent, this affects the way women view their husbands, even without knowing it. so basically, it's in a woman's nature to want to please her husband, and make it work.
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