Saturday, 27 June 2015

Slow Down

I did not think I would have anything to write about today, but then I was so wrong. I stopped a cab and got in, told him my destination and my journey began. Barely few minutes into turning into the road this other Toyota yaris from no where crashes into this jeep and that was how my journey was stalled, for the next 25 minutes nobody agreed to move all trying to point blaming fingers at the other person and then my cab driver asked

"Where are we all in a rush to get to?"

You see, the year is just about to enter into its second half, some of us might have looked at our plans and are disappointed. 6months gone and nothing is moving, I am not anywhere near where I want to be, I had planned to have so so amount of money in my account by now, made these strides and conquered these territories but 6months now and we are still not moving forward. The worst part is that you are sure you have done the best of your ability. So your next strategy is speed up and be on the fast lane in order to achieve all that you have planned out before the end of the year.

It is sad that I am here to tell you to slow down. We all can clearly remember January 1st, I can remember what I did  from 12am till 2nd of January so clearly that it scares me but then from 2nd till today has been blurred. I have breezed through this 6months so focused on my goals and aspirations I am barely living.

We are being encouraged to multi task , get more done , make sure we produce results and all that, our bosses ,partners and families all expect certain things from us and those expectations has driven us into auto mood that we can no longer take a pause and enjoy our life. Most of us our BP’s are on a steady high level and we are not even taking proper care of our body.

I Am alive today means I have at least done something correctly and with God on my side I would still be alive to do more.  Take this next week and slow it all down, when you are eating, eat alone, don’t press your phone or watch the Tv, just be in that moment and enjoy the food, when you are with your partner be with them and let the moment mean something. Life is passing us by as we let ourselves live without memories.

Your slowing might mean you learn to delegate some of the task you are doing yourself, it might also mean to prioritize and leave some task for now, it might also mean letting go totally of things that God has killed and you are trying to resuscitate it back to life.

Slow down my dear, don’t just exist, live. Take a chill pill.

Friday, 26 June 2015

Finally I Got Confused

The European Commission has just announced an agreement whereby English will be the official language of the European Union rather than German, which was the other possibility.

As part of the negotiations, the British Government conceded that English spelling had some room for improvement and has accepted a 5- year phase-in plan that would become known as "Euro-English".

In the first year, "s" will replace the soft "c". Sertainly, this will make the sivil servants jump with joy. The hard "c" will be dropped in favour of "k". This should klear up konfusion, and keyboards kan have one less letter.

There will be growing publik enthusiasm in the sekond year when the troublesome "ph" will be replaced with "f". This will make words like fotograf 20% shorter.

In the 3rd year, publik akseptanse of the new spelling kan be expekted to reach the stage where more komplikated changes are possible.

Governments will enkourage the removal of double letters which have always ben a deterent to akurate speling.

Also, al wil agre that the horibl mes of the silent "e" in the languag is disgrasful and it should go away.

By the 4th yer people wil be reseptiv to steps such as replasing "th" with "z" and "w" with "v".

During ze fifz yer, ze unesesary "o" kan be dropd from vords kontaining "ou" and after ziz fifz yer, ve vil hav a reil sensi bl riten styl.

Zer vil be no mor trubl or difikultis and evrivun vil find it ezi tu understand ech oza. Ze drem of a united urop vil finali kum tru.

Und efter ze fifz yer, ve vil al be speking German like zey vunted in ze forst plas.

Hanti maona kuti ndatokudzidzisai German ipapa

Gore rino ndati muchadzidza zvizhinji....ehe ndikubvira imi *russ*

Wednesday, 24 June 2015


I think the new trend now is the trend of self-improvement, although it is not totally new, but I must say that its fever just got really close to my area this morning.
Self-improvement can be defined as the improvement of one's knowledge, status, or character by one's own efforts….. Dictionary. What I would like for you to highlight in this definition is the word improvement and by one’s own effort.

Most of what I hear in the self-improvement movement is less about being your better self but about changing yourself, which to me is the wrong angle. There is this believe that self-improvement is black and white which I don’t totally agree with.

To me self-improvement is more about fine turning, than changing, more of a metamorphosis than a new birth, just like you can’t turn a black and white TV, into a colored TV, there are some things about yourself, you can’t change but you can only fine tune.

Some people when they put on this glasses of black and white are quick to tell you to stop that, stop this, do that and don’t do that, PLEASE!!!!! give me a break!

When we meet someone sometimes in the name of self-improvement we change the person, and the little energetic person who had the drive and passion to conquer the world has been tamed into a lamb to stay in the barn.

When God created you, he made you in a perfect and wonderful way. You don’t need to change yourself to achieve your purpose, all  you need to do is to develop yourself, not all tress will grow like or be strong like the Iroko tree, some will crow like the bamboo too, so don’t try to change me out of my destiny.

To me self-improvement is being the best version of yourself. It is a never ending pursuit to be a better friend, a better sister, a better lawyer, a better wife and mom in the future, it’s a journey we are all on, yes our efforts won’t be the same but as long as we have started on the right part please don’t kill us or discourage us with those words “ why are you ALWAYS like this” “you NEVER change” you are not in my future so how will you know I will never change, and are you not my shadow to know I am always like this.

I am not saying I won’t work on my short comings, I am just saying I would work on them to be the best version of me not the version you want me to be.
I am not where I want to be but I am sure I have left who I use to be, so in the middle am allowed to sometimes slip and fall back into my old ways, don’t give up just yet, I am a work in progress.

I might not have the body of kim Khadrashan but I will do my best to have the best Body God gave me
I might not have the strength of Serena Williams but I will be strong enough to be the woman God made me to be
I might not have the wits and grit of Chancellor Angela Merkel but I would have the wits and grit to fulfill my purpose

I am working on being the best version of myself not a copy of anyone.
So if you’re in a relationship, or a mother , or a sibling, or a Mentor please since you have not seen their future , that perfect person God created them to be, don’t change them into a version of who you want them to be.

The more I grow, the more I realize there is so much out there I don’t know, so much that I have to learn. For sure, there is always something about ourselves we can improve on. The human potential is limitless, so it’s impossible to reach a point of no growth. Whenever we think we are good, we can be even better.
We are all a work in progress.