Wednesday, 27 May 2015

Do I Really Want My EX Back?

Yesterday I wrote a piece about a friend which I felt would help many people and in turn it did. Got many replies telling me the post helped them a lot, those of you that sent your comments through BBm, Whatsapp and Google hangout, please put the comment on the comment box they could help someone out there trust me.
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A reader who has allowed me to mention his pseudo name ICON ONE, sent me a long email, asking me to tell him how to get his EX back, because he is still in love with her and even though she left him he believes he is right for her.

This is how I want to approach this, before I write on how to get your ex back I want to address the real issue first which is Are YOU SURE YOU SHOULD GET BACK TOGETHER?

I know this feeling trust me, when we break up with someone or they leave us, we have this post break up disease that feels like a hole in our hearts. Someone once described it as SHE felt naked without her man, funny but true. So here are the hard questions you should ask yourself
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1.       Is it to just to win – most times you did not see the break up, so you are totally caught unawares. Did he/she just leave me?, I have to get her back. Not because you want her but because you want to prove to yourself that they still need you and in turn you want to hurt them back. To solve this, try and make a pros and cons list, be honest write down  about your relationship like what you did not like, the ones you liked and those you managed. If the cons and things managed are longer than the pros just go and play candy crush on your phone and forget about him/her. You lost look for another challenge.

2.       Why why why – you have to ask yourself why did we break up in the first place. Take an honest view of the so called reason you guys called it quits, is the reason foolish or is it a legitimate reason?.  Things like having a non-compactible genotype is a legitimate reason so don’t even try to push your luck. Sit back and find out if these problems can be fixed, if they can’t be fixed then let it be. The real trick here is this, if you do this exercise well and don’t find fault from yourself, then you are not yet ready to date again, every relationship break up is a two way thing.

3.       Can I Man up – that term is not a gender biased term, by man up I mean own up to your short comings.  After you have seen your role in the break up, ask yourself are they things you can change and get better at?  if they are then go ahead and wait for my blog post tomorrow on how to get your ex back. If you can’t man up to the short comings, meaning you can’t change please go back and read the yesterday article.
                 
This is your life, so be honest with yourself as you ask these questions, the answer will help you decide whether to fight for your ex or let it go

I would love to hear your views readers

24 comments:

  1. "It must have been love but it's over now." Move on. One door closes another will open.

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  2. When people can walk away from you, let them walk. Don't talk anyone in2 stayn with u. You need to know when people's part in ur story's over so u don't keep tryn 2 raise the dead. :) Like David, when a boy is dead...wash your face and have another baby. I agree with Jakes 'view on this

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  3. I understand the angel Sisi and Nnamdi are coming from, but till I have tried to win her over and failed I wont give up. Oyidiya I have asked myself all the questions on your blog and I am more sure now that I want her back. Please how do I go about it.

    I am highly happy that you have taken today to help me, guess it shows someone still cares. Thsnks

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  4. Hi Iconone, what if you talk her in2 comin back and she leaves you again after 2 babies. Which is easier and less destructive..now or then? Let them walk...u won't die...make new friends...learn salsa..learn a new musical equipment..get deeply involved in ur alumni..anything that keeps ur mind busy n grants u d opportunity of makn new acquaintances. It might cost u money and time but In 3 months time..u ll b glad u let her walk.

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  5. HOW I GOT BACK MY EX GIRLFRIEND AFTER BREAKUP I am Jackson from Australia, I want to testify of how i got back my ex girlfriend, I and my girlfriend have been together for 4 years, recently her character and behavior towards me totally changed and she eventually broke up with me, I tried all i could to get her back but all to no avail until i saw a post in a relationship forum about a spell caster who helps people get back their lost love through his powerful love spells, at first i doubted it but decided to give it a try, when i contacted this love spell caster via his email he helped me cast a love re-union spell and my girlfriend came back to me within 72hours (3 days), and we are happily together again. Contact this love spell caster via his email ikerospelltemple@gmail.com

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  6. Hello My names are Joanna Matin am from Poland i want to use this opportunity to thank my great doctor who really made my life a pleasurable one today. This great Doctor brought my husband back to me, i had 3 lovely kids for my husband, about 3 years ago i and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me for one lady. i felt my life was over and my kids thought then will never see their father again. i tried to be strong just for the kids but i couldn't control the pains that torments my heart, my heart was filled with sorrows and pains because i was really in love with my husband. Every day and night i think of him and i always wish he will come back to me, until one day i met a good friend of mine that was also in a situation like me but her problem was her ex-boyfriend who she had an unwanted pregnancy for and he refused to take responsibility and dumped her. she told me that mine was a small case and that i shouldn't worry about it at all so i asked her what was the solution to my problems and she gave me this great Dr Ogba phone number and his email address. i was doubting if this man was the solution, so i contacted this great man and he told me what to do and i deed them all, he told me to wait for just two days and that my husband will come crawling on his kneels just for forgiveness so i faithfully deed what this great man asked me to do and for sure after two days i heard a knock on the door, in a great surprise i saw my husband on his kneels and i was speechless, when he saw me, all he did was crying and asking me for forgiveness, from that day, all the pains and sorrows in my heart flew away,since then i and my husband and our lovely kids are happy.that is why i want to say a big thanks to Doctor Ogba. This great man made me to understand that there is know problem on earth that has no solution so please if you know that you have this same problem or any problem that is similar, i will advise you to come straight to this great man. you can email him at ogbapaullovespellcaster1@gmail.com or call his mobile line +2348116144331.






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  7. Hello every body my name is Cynthia Morgan, am from United Kingdom England, I just want to share my experience with the world on how Dr iayaryi, help me, I got my love back and saved my marriage… I was married for 3 years with 1kid and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and argued almost every time… it got worse at a point that he filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me because I love him so much and don’t want to lose him but everything just didn't work out… he moved out of the house because it was a rented apartment and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly because I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used his power… Within 4 days my husband called me and he said he was sorry for all the emotional pains he had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily and our kid is happy too and we are expecting our second child… I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience because I strongly believe someone out there need’s it… You can email him through his email.(driayaryi2012@hotmail.com)

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  8. Guys...When you contact a medium to make interventions on your behalf, he alters a natural course on ur behalf and there'a price to pay that no one tells you. Take this advice from someone who knows d dark side of mystic. If Jesus says "Let it go", then let it go..chances are that he was never even with you when you took ur decision.

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  9. And your blog has officially attracted all the psychos in the land! Lol

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    1. Really big psycho! Sure it's a Nigerian claiming all dese!

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  10. @ Nnamdi I totally agree, love and learn salsa or any new instrument. Truly being busy takes your mind of the pain. @ Iconeone try and be sure of the end result, you cant force anyone to stay because people will always leave... GEENARH

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  11. I just believe the guy/lady posting this thrash above is one and the same person. I just don't know why people will not respect themselves and let this work Oy is trying to do move on without a hitch. Well if you are looking for who to scam, please carry your stupidity and go learn how to write proper English first, then find something better to do with your life! From the UK indeed and yet you don't speak or write proper English! How silly! Mtcheww! Not to talk of your devilish methods? Haven't you heard before that only Jesus saves? Disappear from this page and let people get genuine help with their issues before I call down the judgment of God upon you! I wish I could get a hold of you and spank you right now like a little child!

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  12. Hello to the people of this forum< Am Brooke Campbell from Texas and i can say that am the happiest person on earth since last week with what DR ABULU has done for me , it all started last year October when my fiance left me in Texas and travel to see his parents in Ohio at first him was still calling me and show love even when him was away , but it gets to a point when he no longer gives a shit about me , and i noticed it so when i tried to confront him , he told me that he dose not love me again that he feel like being alone i was shocked and heartbroken when i tried talking he will hang the phone on me i was so heart broken and i was frustrated about this , but on a second thought i was not convince that he was on his right senses so i discuss this with my elder sister who lives in California and she directed me to DR abulu of abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com saying that the man has helped her friend in such case before so i said to my self let me tried i contacted this man and explain everything to him and behold dr abulu said to me what am to do and i did exactly what he and he said after three days my fiance will call me and once he calls me i should pick the calls and he gave some other instructions . so i said okay , but to my best surprise on the 7th of November my fiancee called me and started saying on the phone am sorry it was like a dream to me , with this i said i will tell the world of his dr abulu goodness in my life , so if any one is out there and needs help in his or her relationship can also contact him today via

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    1. You want me to call judgment on you abi? You didn't hear or read that I said you should disappear from this page with your devilish tactics?

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  13. I'm Margret from the United States, When i found testimonies about this spell caster Dr Andrew how he helped many people to get their lovers and broken homes back, i contacted him through his email address (drandrewspiritualtemple@gmail.com) because my Husband whom i loved so much with all my heart suddenly changed and turned his back on me and hated me with passion. I was absolutely devastated and desperate to get my husband back. Life without him was a real mess for me and and i wanted a dramatic change and I thought magic could be the solution. After discussing with Dr Andrew he gave me hope that he will restore my relationship back to me. I felt confident that he will actually make my Husband to return home and he did it with some style! It’s fantastic what this great Astrologer have done for me, his help is priceless! I don’t know what I would have done without Dr Andrew,this man does his job so well he is organized and highly professional, i believe he is the best spell caster i can count on when it comes to all kinds of spell. if you need help, contact him (drandrewspiritualtemple@gmail.com) I assure you things will turn around for good..

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  14. After being in relationship with anderson for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email:dreromoselespellhome@gmail.com you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything .I CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL: dreromoselespellhome@gmail.com

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  15. It just occur to me that i have not done the right thing since when my husband came back to me, I am Mayer from United Kingdom, I am on this blog to give thanks to whom it deserve. Some couples of weeks ago my life was in a terrible shape because my husband left me and i never believe that i was going to get him back. But through the help of this powerful spell caster called Dr.Ogudugu my life is now in a joyful mood, I must recommend the services of Dr.Ogudugu to any one out there that they should contact Dr.Ogudugu through his email: GREATOGUDUGU@GMAIL.COM because through Dr.Ogudugu assistance, my marriage was restored.

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  16. Time has come for Dr.Ogudugu to be given a better reward for his good works, I was suffering from heart break for almost a month before i was able to get Dr.Ogudugu contact details via email: greatogudugu@gmail.com and Dr.Ogudugu told me that he will be able to restore my broken relationship within 48 hours. After few hours that i contacted Dr.Ogudugu my lover called me and from there my relationship was restored.

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  17. I got married three years ago, and then it was sweet' in the beginning after a year and few months I gave birth to a male child. at that moment I started facing spiritual falsies in my life, along the process automatically my husband changed his attitude coming home lately and all sort of meaningless things, After a while he said he can't live under the same roof with me and he left the home. my life was in hell starting from the day my man left home he stopped picking my calls he blocked me on his Facebook account, And i had no other option than to seek for spiritual assistance because sometimes i use to watched some magical things on movies. Finally i found a restoration centre were I seek for help! After getting to one week, I seek help! from restoration home my husband found way back home peacefully. I'm so much grateful everything has finally settled. i sheared my testimony to everyone whom need assistance to restore marriage here is Dr obodu email.. obodurestorationcentre@gmail.com

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  18. I want the world to know a great man that is well known as DR Miracle,he has the perfect solution to relationship issues and marriage problems. The main reason why i went to DR Miracle. was for solution on how i can get my husband back because in recent times i have read some testimonies on the internet which some people has written about DR Miracle, and i was so pleased and i decided to seek for assistance from him on his Email ,,,,,,,(MIRACLESPELLHOME@YAHOO.COM),,, which he did a perfect job by casting a spell on my husband which made him to come back to me and beg for forgiveness.I will no stop publishing his name on the net because of the good work he is doing. I will drop his contact for the usefulness of those that needs his help.His Email is ,,,(MIRACLESPELLHOME@YAHOO.COM),,, or his web, http://miraclespellhome.wix.com/dr-miracles,,,, You can contact him today and get your problem solved,,,,,,

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  19. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. Am William Hall Bush from NY, USA. My wife EX husband used a spell on my wife and she went back to him. I felt heart broken for i didn't know how to get her back. I did all i could do to get her back with her close friends but nothing worked out. So, in my place of work, i tried searching for help online and i found various testifiers of how a Doctor named Adoda has been faithful & helpful with his spells. I gave it a try by getting in touch with him and i explained my problem to him. Doctor Adoda prepared a spell for me that brought back my wife within 12 to 16 hours after i contacted him. He assured me that nothing can break us apart again and since 2015 till this moment, i have been full of joy with my wife. Contact him today for any kind of help, He is ready to help.. via Email: adodalovespelltemple@gmail.com

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  20. My name is Jennifer am from uk I am out here to spread this good news to the entire world on how I got my husband back.I was going crazy when my husband left me and my two kids for another woman last month, But when i met a friend that introduced me to Dr Osuko of temple of grace, the great messenger to the oracle. I narrated my problem to him about how my Husband left me and my two kids.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any delay .He told me what i need to do,After it was been done 3 day later,My Husband called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me and the kids before now and one week after my Husband called me to be pleading for forgiveness.I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact Dr Osuko on his personal email address and get all your problem solved.No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him directly on: osukospelltemple@gmail.com and your problem will be solved.can email him on his email address: osukospelltemple@gmail.com

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  21. Be careful here nobody can help you here or even suggest how you can get your ex or love back,any testimonies of most spell caster here must be ignore.because most of them are scam i mean real scam which i was a victim and i got ripped of thousands of dollars because i was so anxious to get my wife back after she left me for over 1 years and 7 months with my 10 years old daughter,i have applied to 13 different spell caster here and all to no avail they all ask for same thing send your name your ex name address and picture phone number etc which i did over and over again and most of them were from west Africa until i saw a post about Dr Zack Balo and i decided to gave him my last trail.he ask me four things my real name,my ex and my ex mother name and $200 and said my ex will come back in 3days, i have paid over $8000 on spell casting and nothing have work for me after 3days i was thinking about how much i have lost so far so i said let me give him a try so i called him again and send my real name,my ex and my ex mother name and the $200 because i swear it was my last try so i was waiting as he told me to wait till next 3 days and i could not sleep those night because i really love my wife and want her back at 8pm the third day i saw my wife on line on face book and she said hi at first i was shock because she never talk with me for the past a year and 7 month now i did not reply again she said are you there? i quickly reply yes and she said can we see tomorrow i said yes and she went off-line i was confused i try to chat her again but she was no more on line i could not sleep that night as i was wondering what she is going to say, by 7.am the next morning she gave me a miss call i decided not to call back as i was still on shock again she call and i pick she said can we see after work today i said yes so she end the call immediately i got off work she call me and we meet and now we are back again i called Dr Zack Balo the next day thanking him for what he has done in fact i still call him and thank him as my life was not complete without my wife please be careful here i have been scam thousands of dollars if you want a true love spell then contact Dr Zack Balo on his email address wiseindividualspell@gmail.com or call him his phone number +2348078927387.

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  22. Hi Everyone,
    I'm from United Kingdom London, City(GB). I met this spell caster called Dr. Ogudugu of greatogudugu@gmail.com online and so many other, but i decided to go with this particular spell caster and this is about 2 weeks ago.I needed the spell caster to reunite me and my lover because she started behaving strange and a day came she text me and told me she cannot continue with the relationship anymore, that she just want to be alone.But a close friend of hers shows the guy to me that she was now dating.So i contacted this spell caster because i was totally heart broken and i smoked and get drunk till i could not even notice if am standing or lying.This spell caster told me not to worry, he gave me hope that am to have her again just like old times, and i provided all the requirements, and in just 5 days, my ex lover called me crying over the phone asking for me to forgive her for her stupid act, and she swore with her mother grave to love me and never hurt me again.This was what the spell caster earlier told me and it came after he has done the spell and that same night, my lover came back to the house to me. I have never seen spell as powerful as this but now, am convinced that Dr. Ogudugu is the best ever, You can contact him through him email address: greatogudugu@gmail.com And also Reach him on WhatsApp Number:+2348139793075 Thanks Dr. Ogudugu Website: http://greatdrogudugusolutiontemple.webs.com/

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