Wednesday, 13 May 2015
Hi Oyidiya, first of all i want to commend you on your blog. God bless you as you keep bringing information to our doorstep.
I recently read your post on Mr and Mrs Smith telling us the pros and cons in marrying someone in the same profession. I tried commenting but it refused to upload so i thought it wise to share my story via this email.
I understand what you mean by saying marrying someone in the same profession helps keep the conversation alive, spend quality time and aids in understanding your partner but I feel all these are applicable at the early years of marriage or i should just ask why my own is different because it doesn't apply in my marriage at least not any longer.
I am a Lawyer likewise my wife and we have been married for over 15 years now with 3 children. We have our firm which we are both partners of the firm but i am the one that runs the firm as i cannot remember the last time my wife came to work. Don't get me wrong her absence is not a problem to me in fact I even like it like that because any day or time she visits, drama always follows suit.
For more than 2 years now i have been enduring my marriage because things are no longer as it used to be. I literally spend most of the day at work all because I can no longer contend with her level of nagging at home. And as a human being that i am who has needs that she has refused to attend to, I have decided to seek solace else where and with other people and that she also knows.
Well to cut the long story short, let me just narrate the recent incident. My wife came to the office last week along side her drama. We had series of argument in the office meanwhile this was during working hours and my employees were still around. She left the house just to come and tell me that the stain she saw on my white shirt could not be ordinary dust but brown powder. She started screaming on top of her voice just because i warned her never to bring family issues to my work place again especially during working hours and walked her out of my office. She stood in front of the office raining curses on me and continued same as she walked down the street. The insults were becoming unbearable and I decided to run after her and caution her. I caught up with her at the junction and mid way into pouring my heart out, I was silenced by her heavy slap.
Now this is not the first time i am receiving slap from her but this is the first time it is happening in public and I can no longer tolerate her any more.
Well i decided to share this story because I have experienced that it is tough marrying your profession especially if the profession is Law. I have been embarrassed severally by this same woman and I am tired. I was taught never to hit a woman but at this stage i might be forced to or better still throw her out of my life or I need better ways to sort my self out of this mess. Thank you.
Personally I am not not a fan of anyone that hits a woman neither do i encourage divorce unless the marriage has broken down irretrievably. So permit me to sit this one out as i honestly want to hear your views.