Feed Your Man.

It is a popular saying that the way to a man’s heart is true his stomach. And since the beginning of time the saying has stood to be true. But I would want to go a little deeper than the surface meaning of that saying.

What are you feeding your man?

Most times we ladies see our men as the terminator who has it all figured out and is on auto control with his plans and dreams for the Promised Land he is taking us to. We forget that he is just a Man.  He does not have two heads, or a super brain, he has not time travelled to the future to see how it will all end meaning he is as confused as you are.

He acts all in control as if he has the blue print of the dream but in reality he is struggling every day to make sure he does not drop the ball and make a fool of himself.

Yet ladies on daily occasion have not feed the man in their lives.

I don’t mean giving him food, I mean give him affirmation, praise, letting him know you support him, joining in his little success and letting him know that the sacrifice he pays on daily bases is appreciated by you.

When last did you just call him to say, I believe you are the man to bring all our dreams to reality, I believe in you and I am willing to ride or die with you. I know it is not easy for you but I trust you to pull through. In the little you have you provide for me when I ask. I am not asking you to say thank you. I am asking you to feed his dream.

From year to year, you have never told him how you are proud he is your man, we women always want to be at the receiving end of such praise and affirmations, but when last did we give it to our man.

He goes out makes a bad decision, he is beating up himself in the money he has lost, and all you do is remind him of his short comings, you begin to tell him things like you told him so, instead of you to uphold him and feed his self-esteem and believe, by telling him another opportunity will come, don’t beat up yourself, don’t give up yet.

He suggest as a team to reduce expenses and move into austerity measures because he needs to free up cash for the next big idea he is pursuing, the first words out of your mouth is I CANT. You did not even pause to consider or to think of a way to make it work, you immediately rebuff his strategy. Making it look like he is in this battle alone.

He finally gets that promotion, or a Job or gets a break in a contract he has been chasing for years, and the way you react is so passive that his happiness dwindles in a seconds.

Men always act like they have it all together, but if you have brothers, or male friends who could be honest, you will see that one of the reason they die earlier than women is just because of the burden they tend to carry alone.

You know how you feel when someone affirms you, encourages you and praise your accomplishments, don’t you think your man can use them once in a while as he strives to deliver the future to you.

Every man has an enormous potential, they all have the seeds of greatness in them, but they daily need someone to water it and nature it.

Part 2 coming soon - Tools To Feed Your Man.